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Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves.

This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently.

I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn’t solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place.

I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place.

As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am.

excerpt from “FYI, I Cannot “Demand” Respect From Men so Stop Telling Me That!" @ One Black Girl. Many Words.  (via daniellemertina)
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trotskay:

"Kameraden" is the German word for "comrades" in a non-political sense & "Genossen" is the German word for "comrades" in a political sense 

pls note the difference 

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Please stop claiming that there are “strict gun laws” in a place where someone kills a roomful of people with a legally purchased arsenal.

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When campus rape is treated as a PR problem, survivors become liabilities to be controlled, silenced and swept away.

Opinion: When schools put their brands before assaulted students

As colleges go corporate, strategies for dealing with sexual violence focus on risk management, not justice

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It’s always surprising to me how many young women think they have to be perfect. I rarely meet a young man who doesn’t think he already is.

 Hillary Clinton speaking at Simmons Leadership Conference (via femininefreak)

SHOTS FIRED.

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missymalice:

i have no patience for anyone who brands themself a feminist and does not respect a woman’s personal choices in terms of clothing, gender expression, etc.

if you find things like shaving to be tiresome, by all means, don’t shave, but if you start acting like any woman who picks up a razor blade is so brainwashed by the patriarchy she’s incapable of making her own grooming decisions, you can take your condescending bullshit elsewhere.

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